After a two month hiatus, I returned to the gym today where I burned what I consider to be a respectable 450 calories (not going to tell you how long that took me). No matter what anybody says, the gym has not grown in favor and I continue to despise every waking moment of exercising. The absolutely only type of exercise I really like is yoga, hopefully once my gym contract expires I can start to attend more classes.
Other than the gym and Borders, I have had a very dull weekend. I didn't make it to church...something about Sunday services that I really don't care for. I certainly need to make the effort of going more often in the future, but part of me probably feels a little anxious at the possibility of running into CPA...part of why FWB relationships work is because you generally don't have to run into them unless specifically arranged...chance meetings (like at volunteering last week) are awkward and slightly humiliating. I didn't make it to church, but I did watch at least watch an online message to get a good old dose of direction...today's topic: marry well. To be honest, it was not the life-changing a-ha message I was hoping for, but at least it reiterated certain key points.
1. Must be a friend
2. Take it slow
3. Have realistic expectations
These same principles continue to come up everywhere you look. A good partner is a friend. I really struggle with this one. As I have said before, I have not been able to maintain friendships with men, and instead I have always regarded the opposite sex as if they are or are not a possible match. Take it slow, I am equally bad at this. I hate taking things slow...as is evidence by my many first dates that have gone too far. And as for realistic expectations, um, I don't think I have ever quite gotten far enough to have any expectations...all of my relationships are free and clear of any expectation, and again, equally, this is a problem.
So what do I need to do to start the process of marrying well? It seems that I have to develop a friendship or at least an acquaintanceship with men with whom I have common interests. How to do this? I will argue that I have made several efforts at meeting new friends, all to no avail. And yes, I understand I need to continue these efforts and step up the frequency and consistency in which I engage in these efforts.
And with that, inspiration is gone for the night. If you have any wisdom or suggestions for this single Chi-girl please feel free to share :)
Sorry I've been MIA :) I just got caught up.
ReplyDeleteThe way that I finally found my husband was when I finally stopped looking. For me, every single good looking guy I met was a potential until he failed to meet one of the "list" requirements. My list had become far too important, and I wasn't able to enjoy my friendships b/c the pressure I was putting on them (an inner battle, to be sure) caused them to become failures in my eyes.
So finally one day God said "Screw the list" (in not quite those words), and it suddenly hit me that if I gave it up, and let Him do it, wouldn't He give me what was best for me? Didn't He know better than me what I needed? And he did. His promise was made so real to me in the form of my husband.
So there. The only wisdom I have on the topic is my own experiences, and though everyone's process is different, maybe this will help you some. *shrugs*