Back in black, actually OPI Russian Navy Matte. Apparently, Matte is the new fashion in nail color and I absolutely had to try it out. My verdict: not a lover. Matte finish looks like coloring in your nails with a sharpie. Although I am not sold, I will keep it for awhile...its cutting edge and sadly represents my mood after being disappointed yet again, by a supposed "good guy".
All apologies to my readers (myself) for absence of blog this week. Truly I have felt uninspired for content, and on top of that I have suffered a wicked inability to articulate what I would like to in the natural and pretty prose I usually do. Maybe that content was better left unwritten. Fortunately, I have new content to explore: "the good guy".
Last weekend at a girlfriend's party, the subject turned to the appeal of good guys vs bad boys and how women are often more attracted to the latter. I myself will say that I like the bad boys. Of course this conversation always questions the why do nice guys finish last and why do women always go with losers? I am here to set the record straight as according to me: nice guys are not nice guys!! The truth is that men are men, the good guys screw you and the bad boys screw you (and its usually better!). The difference between the good guys and the bad boys is that when a bad boy screws you (in a metaphorical sense) you expect it and see it coming, but when a good guy screws you, you never see it coming and you will be left in pain uttering "I thought he was a good guy, I thought he was different". And when a bad boy treats you poorly or acts like an asshole, you expect it, but when a good guy does it, it is unexpected and to a point less forgivable.
Here are a few examples of the good guys I have tried on.
-One good guy (who actually was in love w/ me) cancelled on me on my birthday because it was raining outside.
-One good guy broke up with me because I would not have sex with him.
-One good guy assaulted me in public by pulling my hair and verbally insulting me.
-And many many good guys have used me for intimate purposes never to be heard of from again.
-And many many other examples of how good guys act like assholes.
Okay, maybe my good guy examples are not all that dramatic and painful, however each one was a clear reminder to me that there is no good guy vs bad boy, there is only men, and they are all the same; they are all capable of hurting you.
Here are some reasons why I like bad boys:
-Bad boys are sexy and bad.
-Bad boys are confident and charming.
-Bad boys are busy and exciting.
-Bad boys are a challenge.
And once you fall for a bad boy, you think you can change them, they become a project, an obsession. But I think any of the women in this situation can tell you, you never actually expect things to work out with a bad boy, they are for Mr Right Now, and not for Mr Right. And because of this, when things do end, you knew they would. When things don't work out with a good guy, a guy you want to see as Mr Right, it is unexpected.
At the end of the day good guy vs bad boy doesn't really matter. We are all attracted to who we are attracted to, to that je ne said quoi. Mr Right will be the guy who treats you the best and loves you the most of all of the good guys and bad boys. So please, take it easy on the bad boys, they aren't so bad.
And here to substantiate a myth of can you change a bad boy into a good man? I know one girl who actually did it. My darling friend started to date a bad boy, he smoked, did recreational drugs, and had a ponytail. Then after a few dates she tells him that she won't seriously date a guy who does drugs...he quit immediately, cut his hair, and started wearing premium denim and Burberry business suits. It can happen!
He was "The Exception"
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