After my Marc Jacobs "a-ha" I headed to volunteer with my Chi-girlfriend. We went to pack seeds of vegetables (why do they need onions anyway?) for the people of Zimbabwe. It was an opportunity through the church which meant that there was the possibility of seeing the CPA as well as many of the other hub members. I prepped my friend for this in advance by saying, "remember, he is very average". As a reminder, I have not seen or heard from CPA since My Venezuelan was in town more than a month ago.
Well needless to say, we did see CPA...long story short we said a polite hello and that's about it. Afterwards, my girlfriend and I went out for some dishing and dining.
And further needless to say, Sunday I invited CPA over for dinner which he readily accepted. So he came over for my faux dinner picked up from the hot foods section at Whole Foods. Impressively, he brought a bottle of wine this time and not grape juice. Whew. Apparently CPA has been up to the same old same old, working. And he is also training for the marathon every Saturday morning at 8:00am. (Why oh why?) I am so far from being interested in him that I can finally relax and enjoy his company for what it is...someone else to spend time with in the Chi who just happens to be a pretty good kisser. I could do worse. And if I wasn't already over him then his take on sweatpants sure got me there sooner....
This blastedly cold winter weather has kept me dressed warm...denim with no socks. And because we never go anywhere but my couch, I haven't even been able to wear a skirt and tights. Ergo, CPA has only ever seen my in skinny jeans which due to their nature and construction, can actually prevent certain compromising PG positions. If that were his reason for suggesting changing into sweatpants I may have respected him more. Instead, he innocently wondered why I wouldn't wear sweatpants always because they are more comfortable. Um, excuse me? I told him that I think it is inappropriate to wear sweatpants when you are entertaining. He didn't agree and questioned why it would matter? To be politically correct and keep the majority of my readers, I will say that yes, sweatpants are okay if they are worn around friends, parents, and sig others. (And for the record, I would never wear sweatpants in front of my friends or sig other for two reasons: 1. SPants are not who I am, 2. SPants are too short for me!). But CPA is certainly not a sig other.
Grudgingly and with ample irritation, I will admit that I do think he brings up a good point (the conclusion I had to draw on my own). It shouldn't matter what you are wearing, it should be about who you are. I do completely agree with that statement, but here's the thing: much of who I am is represented through how I present myself on the outside. There is no right or wrong in this. In order to feel confident I need to feel like I am presenting myself well, I am clean, my hair is done, I have a nice outfit on, etc. If those simple elements are missing, then I instantly feel uncomfortable and less confident. This is just who I am and I guess I want a partner who acknowledges and appreciates the effort I put in every single day. How could you not appreciate that about someone? Yes, it is important who you are obviously, but to be the best person I can be, I need to look the part, and that is something I will be proud of.
I agree w/ you both. I'm the kind of person who would go to the store in PJ's though, simply b/c I could, but only if I looked cute in my pj's. haha. But I live in DFW, so, if you're leaving the house, your first stop better be the spa... (which is why I am a complete failure here and don't fit in at all.).
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