I have to admit that I find very many things quite baffling in this world; suburbs, pixie cuts, the appeal of Megan Fox and Angelina Jolie, vegetables, basketball, "girl next doors", and certainly, I find young, divorced women who get married w/in a year of getting divorced, quite baffling. To clarify, this is not me being jealous, judgmental, resentful, or spiteful, this is me being truly perplexed by this reoccurring phenomenon. I guess, and I say this with as much self respect as I can muster, I don't understand how I can't seem to get married once, and these women are doing it twice, or sometimes three times by the age of 28. Is it that they are more lovable? Are they easy? Are they more confident (should a divorce give you confidence)? Do they have lower standards? Are they lucky in love (are you lucky in love if you're divorced)? Do they learn faster from their mistakes? Do they just know more people and more men from their past life? Do they have low self-esteem? Are they codependent? What is it? Please help me understand the appeal!
I know that these women are probably quite fabulous and deserve to be in happy relationships as much as the next person, but shouldn't there be some kind of waiting period? Shouldn't they have to "wait their turn" and wait in line after the never married but fabulous singles? Or do married and divorced women have something the rest of us don't? I know my fabulous married friend seems to get more attention than any of her single girlfriends times 10. Hello! Men, she is MARRIED!
Please, if you are a married or a divorced woman, it is time to tell all.
I think you're looking at this wrong. My sister is one of 'those' women. Sort of. She married young, had a crazy relationship with her husband and then they divorced. OK, they didn't actually divorce. They just told everyone they did. Ewe. And then she moved on and was engaged to another guy. Even bought a dress. And then that went south. So she ended up wearing the dress to 'renew her vows' to her actual husband. WTF.
ReplyDeleteShe can't stand the idea of being lonely- I think. She has to have someone. She has daddy issues. There are women like that who aren't strong enough to go it alone. Even if for a short time, so they seek out the men who are willing and force them into quick relationships that never work out.
There's a reason they've been divorced, they don't know what they're doing.
Some learn from their mistakes, while others are doomed to repeat them. Over and over.
I am happily married. We dated for 4 years and have been married now for almost 5. (Just in case you want a point of reference. Also, Im 29 and my sister just turned 25. She has a 6 year old and a 7 month old)
I kinda feel like these women only know what they know and what they have seen in life. I believe they do lower there standards and dont have very high life goals for themselves. There is always the exception, but from what I have witnessed, most of the women end up very unhappy with themselves, thier spouses, marriages,...etc, etc, etc. The just havent experienced enough or gotten to know themselves well enough to be happy in the long term. So they just keep looking for something else or someone else to make happy, instead of just looking inward.
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