My LC also suggested that I come up with my deal breakers when it comes to men. If for some reason I don't get exactly what I am looking for in another person, then what characteristics am I not willing to compromise on? I thought that this list would be hard to come up with, but actually it turns out, its not.
It is a deal breaker if
-I am not attracted to him physically or mentally
-he is cheap
-he is judgemental
-he is boring and dull
-he is too out-spokenly opinionated
-he listens exclusively to rap
-he is controlling
-he is insecure or desperate
-he is a non-drinker
-he is married or in a relationship
-he has kids
-he lives in the country
-he is ignorant or prejudice
-he is uneducated
-he is not financially stable
-he doesn't have a sense of humor
There you have it, my deal breakers. Why is it so easy to say what we don't want, but often hard to say what we do want? Ah yes, the answer is in the thread that binds my blogs, a four letter loaded word: fear. The fear of not getting what we want, the fear of failing.
Hey, you have to know what your deal breakers are, don't you? However? When HE comes? I bet you'll be surprised at what deal breakers change. Love is a crazy thing that follows no predictable patterns. I remember thinking that my husband was COMPLETELY wrong for me, and that we'd never work out. I fought my attraction to him and fought it all. 12 years later I know he is what I needed- and still do.
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