Meet the parents

Miserable day in the Chi...it went from 65 and sunny yesterday to snow, blustery winds, and 30s, how very miserable indeed. A perfect follow-up to a miserable night.

So one of my former FWBs was in town last night and invited me out to a bar called "houndstooth" and it was...a lot of young twenties men, the girls who love them, and basketball, oh and beer. You know you're too old when...when you are so over these kinds of places...(omg I am over the bar scene). I would much rather be at a low key wine bar or neighborhood bar than at a club or sports bar. Sigh, I am old.

So this FWB and I have not seen each other in over a year, and we have not seen each other with benefits in almost 2 years, and any further attempt in the recent MN days were all rebuffed. So then why would I agree to meet up out here in the Chi? Obviously, boredom...I would say yes to anything as evident by my German company. So considering my history with this FWB I really shouldn't have been surprised when he blatantly asked whether or not he would be spending the night. Apparently, as he explained, "why else would he have invited me?" (Did I mention this FWB is a very big asshole?) Not one to generally get or feel insulted I gently said no thanks, assured him that the reason being is that I am trying to change my karma, and I am sort of trying to see someone. All of that is true, in addition to the fact that he is an asshole, that he is a little insecure, and I do not care for his character, I mean buy me a drink, be a gentleman. So I declined the romantic assumption and excused myself...home by 9:00.

This FWB topic has been quite a running theme for awhile. It is very interesting that all of my FWBs of years past still contact me. To be clear I really only have 2 FWBs from my past: the guy from last night who I have essentially stopped seeing over 1.5 years ago, and my hot Latin FWB who I will be honest and admit that part of me is a little bit in love with. And I do like his character, his company, and his joie de vivre. (This FWB is the keeper of my German's). Sometimes I have referred to Big as an FWB but obviously he is so much more and if anything we are in a non-committed relationship, which in the past few months has been more of an X-non-committed relationship, and now likely will turn into an LA-X-non-committed relationship, oh sigh. And my new FWB relationship with CPA, I broke off last week. So there, really I am only down to 1 Latin FWB if any.

I am too old for the houndstooth and I am too old for FWBs! I want a real relationship that is based on someone actually liking me and thinking that I am worth seeing frequently. I want a relationship that leads to exchanging keys and meeting the parents.