And tomorrow brings a date or "something" with CPA. Did I mention he asked me for Friday on Tuesday? Is that progress? The question is whether or not I will have the courage to honest and tell him that I am not interested in continuing a friends with benefits relationship...sounds like a could be break-up. I have been in this situation before where a FWB broke up with me on my birthday although we were never really dating. I was kinda pissed, kinda insulted, I mean did that guy actually think we were dating or something? We were only FWB and the rules of FWB mean that you do not have to have the awkward I no longer want benefits with you conversation...you skip it and dissolve such a friendship by screening and erasing phone #s. Am I really saying this at 27 years old? No, I am saying it as a 26 year old, now as a much wiser 27 year old I am braving the possible break-up conversation in person. They say go big or go home.
The two possible outcomes are that he agrees to no longer continue a FWB relationship but he's not interested in anything more so we stop contact, or other possible outcome, he wants to date for real yo. To be honest both outcomes are pretty scary, the latter being the more scary. How do you start dating someone for real when all you are used to is FWB? The only guys I have ever been interested in have become my FWB. It is the guys I am not interested in that try to date me. I guess I am (here's that word again) afraid that if CPA wants to date me I will find out I don't like him and I will have to suffer the disappointment.
Stay tuned...
Just some questions… are you sure you want him? Are you sure that you are interested in a non FWB kind of relationship with him? You could be the one to say “not interested”… if you are not interested. Going back to you blog “No deal” does he “live in the country?” Maybe you don’t want him… you do not have to take him. Are you interested or is he something to do? Do you even want to ask the question of “are you interested in dating” if that is not what you want? Are you guarding you heart or are you just not that interested in him? You are a great person- you do not have to settle for anyone! It is not about what he wants… right, it is about what you want. Do you want him?
ReplyDeleteI was thinking the opposite of the comment above, thinking, are you maybe a bit scared of committing to a relationship with someone? Perhaps that is why you typically have FWB relationships and not committal dating ones. Just a thought. I'm anxious to hear how it goes!
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